First
Dates
Whether it happens
when you're sixteen or sixty, going on a
first date is one of the best ways I know
to get your adrenaline flowing and your
heart pumping. Even if you've gotten to
know your date through e-mail and
then on the phone, there's something about
the first meeting that makes your heart
pound, your palms sweat, and your mouth
go dry.
People always ask
me where they should go on a first
date. Since I know that many of
you, as a result of using this wonderful
site will be going out with someone brand
new in your life, I thought I'd give you
some good sound advice about your first
date.
It's a good idea to
stay away from very noisy places. You'll
want to be somewhere where you can have
a conversation without straining to hear
or having to yell over the noise of the
crowd.
I also advise against
going to a movie on your first date.
The movies may have been a safe bet when
you were in high school, not having to worry
about what to say to keep a conversation
going. But, as an adult trying to find a
compatible mate, you want to spend
your first meeting getting to know each
other. It is a waste of your time and money
sitting in a movie theater where you can't
interact or look at each other.
If you are too uncomfortable
sitting in a café talking for an
hour and a half or two hours and feel you
need some form of entertainment to take
the pressure off, there are many other activities
where you'll be entertained and still able
to get to know each other.
1) At a sporting event you can at least
talk about the action and cheer your team.
2) Going bowling, playing miniature golf,
shooting a game of pool, going to a video
arcade or an amusement park or just taking
a row boat onto a lake, are all fun activities
where you can have a good time and get to
know someone.
3) Visiting a museum, going to the zoo or
to the beach, or visiting an aquarium are
all good choices as well.
Remember that the
purpose of the first date is not
romance, it is discovery. Ideally, you want
to have the opportunity to learn about each
other in a comfortable setting for both
of you.
Here's to a wonderful
first date.
Dr. Ellen
Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D.
is the author of the Light His Fire, Light
Her Fire and Single No More Programs. To
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