Dating
Tips for Men
Bathe
This may sound cheeky but the worst thing
you could do when going out on a date
(especially if it is your first date
with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking
dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner
of the specious and will judge you on how
hygienic you are, after all you would be
appalled if she turned up for the date
looking like a hippie that hadn`t bathed
for a while (no offence). It doesn`t cost
to take a bath and make an effort. Remember
bad breath and body odor are an instant
turn off and she will assume that this is
how you are all the time even if you are
just having a bad day (hey girls have bad
hair days all the time) she won`t see beyond
your appearance.
Arrive on
time
The worst thing you can do is turn up late.
Turning up late will send out all the wrong
impressions that you definitely don`t want
her to think. Women always assume the worse
and one of the worst is turning up late,
not only will she think that she has been
stood up but will also think that you are
unreliable. If you are picking her up from
her home then it is advisable to turn up
5 minute before you are due - any earlier
she will be adjusting her make up or still
getting ready and won`t want you to see
her half finished and turning up late...
well just don`t.
Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk
through the doors first, pull her chair,
be polite to her and people around you.
Women like to feel special and by treating
her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
Compliment
Her
The first thing to say to her is you look
beautiful before you even ask how she is.
Keep up the compliments throughout your
date such as: "your hair looks nice
I like the colour of it, your eyes are very
sparkly etc. But do not go over board. A
woman loves to be complimented, feel sexy,
gorgeous/beautiful and that you are attracted
to her.
Listen to
her and ask questions
No body wants to spend the whole night listening
to someone talk about themselves or not
listening to what the other person is saying.
But you do have to get to know each other.
Ask her questions but more importantly listen
to what she has to say. There is nothing
more that a woman likes than when someone
is interested in what they have to say.
"I remember once I was sitting in a
restaurant waiting for some friends. There
was a man and women sitting at the table
next to mine and I couldn`t help overhearing
their conversation (rather his talking of
himself). I could tell it was their first
date from what he was telling her about
himself". "I play Saturday league
football, I like boxing". He want on
like this for about 10 minutes without stopping
or asking her questions and she was just
sitting there nodding slightly every so
often and looking bored. That day left an
impact on me and every time I have went
on a date I have been conscious of the woman
and took an interest in what she had to
say. This probably the best bit of advice
I could give.
Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting
having a meal and the conversation dried
up and you are left for the rest of the
night bored with each other. Think about
your date and what you would like to know
about her and in return what you would like
her to know about you. Try and think of
any questions that she might ask you so
that you can prepare the answer. You think
that it is easy to talk and that you will
not run out of questions to ask or that
you will automatically have the answers
but until you are there and in the situation
you have no idea what it is like. You can
avoid all of this by meeting for a quick
drink then go on to see a film so at least
you will have something to talk about.
Who will pay?
This is a really tough question as now women
are more independent and like to pay their
way. I suggest that you offer to pay and
if she lets you then pay. If she wants to
pay you can argue that you want to or at
least pay for half the bill. If she offers
to split again you can argue (that is if
you want to) but if she insists on splitting
then let her pay half.
The goodnight
kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a date,
others are disappointed if they guy doesn't
even try. There is no easy answer to this.
The only answer I can come up with is wait
until either she makes the first move or
that you both know when you are ready. Watch
for body language and little touches but
I would not advice sex on the first date
unless she wants to.
I`ll
call you
Only tell her that you will call her if
you mean it and intend on seeing her again.
This is an awkward situation and most of
the time the easiest solution is to take
her number and tell her you will call her
but don`t if you are not interested. When
saying goodbye just say "It was nice
meeting you" and wish her luck or you
could just say good night, smile and walk
a way. But if you do like her and are interested
then you have to let her know.
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