How
to get over being dumped
Virtually
everyone has been dumped at some time in
their life.
I know I have and
I know how much it hurts. Rejection is like
a severe pain something twisting your insides.
You may even feel nausea, headaches and
even sickness. You may even find that for
some reason you are subject to every cold
and bug within a mile of you. Picking up
the pieces is very tough. You will wish
that your life could go back to the way
it was before he left and you will live
in hope that he will return. You may even
feel that no body will ever want you and
that you will never find love again. This
is of course nonsense but you will not realise
it until the day you are finally over him.
So, how can you get
over the pain? How can you learn to live
again? How can you stop feeling that you
are unlovable and unwantable and that fate
has marked you out for a lifetime of solitude,
misery and bad luck? How can you start to
enjoy your new single life and start to
have some fun?
The first
step
You have to realise that he is not coming
back to you. This is a painful process and
it doesn`t matter whether you are young
and have lost the boy of your dreams or
you are a 40 year old who has been left
by her philandering husband of 20 years.
The healing process is still the same.
Remember that you
will get over him. It might not seem like
that right now but believe me in time you
will.
Cry
Let it all out. You may cry for a day, a
week even a month or two and when the crying
stops you will know you are half way there.
Talk
Talk to your friends and family. Talk about
your ex until you have no words left to
say. You will know you are getting better
when you are bored with the subject yourself.
Get angry
Shout, yell, scream even punch a pillow
(don`t punch anyone though as you can end
up in serious trouble.) Let all your anger
out. Then take 5 minutes to calm yourself
down by taking some deep breathes and not
moving. You will feel much better at letting
all your anger out and feel even better
once you are calm.
Look after
yourself
You may be off your food, not sleeping properly,
over drinking, smoking generally not looking
after yourself. With all the added stress
this will begin to show. Take long, hot
scented baths, play music that helps you
to let your feelings out and allow other
people to get close to you and to care for
you.
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