Flirting
The fine art of flirting
How many times have you been in a lift with
someone, stood at the bar bumped into the
guy of your dreams but you haven't had the
courage to talk to him? Well you are not
a lone because it happens to us all. (Unless
you are my friend Sally of course).
It was a Sunday afternoon
and I was waiting in a local bar for Sally
to arrive. We hadn't seen each other for
ages so we decided to meet for lunch and
catch up on all the latest gossip. When
she walked in I couldn't believe what I
was seeing, Sally wearing a low cut top
and the tiniest of skirts I had ever seen
with a pair of strappy heels on. (Talk about
your Sunday best.) Looking down at my own
tatty jeans, trainers and sweater that were
2 sizes to big, you can pretty much say
I felt a bit underdressed. I hadn't noticed
the way she walked before but now I couldn't
help but to look she was swaying her hips
like they were about to fly off. And I wasn't
the only person to notice all the men there
turned to look.
When the bar man came
over to take our order he couldn't keep
his eyes off Sally. When I give him my order
he just said yeah then turned to stare at
Sally again. Well I couldn't believe what
happened next. She began curling her hair
around her fingers looking straight into
his eyes and with a seducing sultry voice
asked him what was the dish of the day.
I had never seen a man blush so much in
all of my life and to this day I still haven't.
He took our order and rushed away as quick
as his legs could carry him.
I sat there half between
anger (at being ignored) and hysteria at
the sight of his beetroot red face. There
I was sitting with Sally - clean cut Sally
whom had never looked at a man never mind
flirted with one acting like Sharon
Stone in a scene from Fatal Attraction.
What has happened to you I asked her. She
told me that her becoming the mistress of
flirting had all started as a bet
between her and the girls at work. They
always teased her about blushing every time
a certain guy walked into the office. So
they dared her to seduce him and if she
couldn't that she would have to kiss the
boss and that would mean instant sacking
or even worse him taking a fancy to her
(he is fat, 50ish and bald with smelly breath.)
If she won the bet they would each give
her £20 which meant she would get
£120 all together. She told me that
she was terrified and that every day he
was due to come into the office she would
phone in sick. But the girls set her up
and one day when she wasn't expecting to
see him he walked into the office and worse
still over to her desk and asked her what
she wanted him for. With out thinking she
pulled him forward and planted her lips
on his. She then went on to tell me that
she had never felt such adrenaline like
it before and that knowing she could have
a man wanting her so much was just to much
for her not to use and she has done so ever
since. She still took the girls money even
though they where the ones that brought
her out of her shell.
I've got to give it
to her she knows how to flirt and
have seen her in action on many occasions.
As for me I had to watch and learn.
Here is some advice
for all of you none flirts out there or
for those of you that want to be better
flirts.
Confidence:
We all need it whether it is to go and get
that higher paid job or get the man we want
and no one got anywhere flirting with out
it. Start off slowly. You have to let people
know that you are approachable.
Talk:
Go out of your way to talk to the person
sitting next to you at the bus stop, on
the bus, in the lift or even in the queue
at your local super market (great place
for meeting single guys.) It doesn't have
to be just men if you haven't got much confidence
in talking to people then start off by talking
to women then gradually build up to talking
to men.
Smile:
Every day make a point of smiling whether
it is to your grumpy old neighbor or the
office gossip that spread some rumors about
you last week. It will not only make you
feel happier but also make those around
you feel happier. Happiness attracts and
people will want to get to know you. You
may even get a smile from your grumpy old
neighbor.
Go it
alone:
When was the last time you went some where
on your own? Not to work or the shops but
out to a bar, a party even the cinema. What
was that never I hear you say? Well that
won't do at all. Start of by going somewhere
that is of interest to you like an art gallery
the theatre it can be any where you will
not only meet people with the same interest
but you will have the knowledge to talk
to anyone you meet about the subject. This
also allows you to practice talking to strangers
and smiling.
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