First
Date Do's and Don'ts
First dates
are very nerve racking and often leave us
shy, silent and blowing are chances of getting
a second one because we weren`t prepared
for this one. Here are some pointers to
help you get the best start and make a good
impression.
Do
1. Be on time - The last thing you want
to do is make a bad impression on your date.
If you are late they will think that you
don`t care and worse still might not hang
around for you to turn up.
2. Make your partner
feel comfortable - We all feel like a bag
of nerves on our first date with someone;
so by making them feel comfortable you will
also be able to relax and enjoy yourself.
3. Be an interesting
date - The worse thing you can do is turn
up for a date with someone then sit there
all night and talk or worse still talking
and not making sense or having nothing good
to talk about.
4. Laugh at their
jokes - Even if you have heard the joke
100 times or more (or it just isn`t funny
at all) laughing a long with them will make
them feel you are interested in them.
5. Keep the conversation
alive - That dreaded silence when no one
knows what to say can seem to last for a
life time and will make both of you think
the other is boring. Jot down a few questions
you would like to ask. Practicing for the
date can make all the difference and once
you have started the rest will just follow.
Here are a few conversation starters you
could use.
6. Take an interest
in them - Listen to them when they are talking.
Be interested in what they have to say and
show how interested you are by asking them
questions about what they like to do etc..
7. Take them somewhere
unique - First dates don`t just have to
be about going to the cinema or to a restaurant
for a nice meal. You will make a longer,
lasting impression if you are imaginative
with your date.
8. Be confident -
Confidence says a lot about a person. Being
more confident will help you get through
that first date with ease.
9. Be yourself - You
won`t fool anyone by pretending to be someone
you are not. Also if you are wanting to
continue seeing them, the real you will
come out eventually and they may no longer
be interested.
10. Most importantly
- STAY SAFE. Check out our guide to dating
safely
Don't
1. Be late - First impressions count and
if you are late this will make them think
of you as lazy, having lack of responsibilities,
etc..
2. Talk about yourself all night - There
is nothing worse then a person that loves
to talk about themselves all the time. How
vain can you get?
3. Talk about past relationships all night
- May be that`s how you lost the last one.
Nobody wants to hear you drone on about
your ex and what they did or didn`t do.
Concentrate on this one and see if you can
get to the second date.
4. Eat with your mouth open - Just the thought
of it makes my stomach turn so save your
date the horrible experience.
5. Ask too many personal questions - This
is your first date and they won`t want to
reveal to much about themselves just yet.
If you like each other and want to continue
with the relationship then there will be
plenty of time to ask questions.
6. Try to be something you are not - You
will only attract the way that you act and
if that is not the real you, when the real
you does come out the other person will
not be interested. Find someone that will
want you for you not for what you are pretending
to be.
7. Forget to thank them for the date - Not
only is this good manners but this is where
you will get your chance to end it if you
are not interested or for you to ask them
out on another date if you would like to
see them again.
8. Propose marriage or kids - Unless you
don`t want to see them again.
9. Pursue sex after your partner has said
no.
10. Don`t get drunk - You don`t want to
spend half the night in the toilet vomiting
and your date won`t think much of you. You
can also put yourself at risk of unwanted
advances and will not be in the right frame
of mind or body to do anything about it.
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